There's usually a number that's just for you, on purpose, no guilt attached. This finds a rough version of it. Two questions, no login.
If spending feels wrong even when you can afford it, that's guilt, not logic. Guilt isn't a savings plan. Money you've already made room for is allowed to be fun.
A lot of people think being responsible with money means feeling bad every time they spend it. So they either white-knuckle it and feel deprived, or they spend anyway and feel guilty after. Both are exhausting, and neither actually helps. The guilt is just noise. It doesn't make you save more, it just makes spending miserable.
Ramit Sethi, who wrote I Will Teach You to Be Rich, has a cleaner way to think about it. He splits your take-home into a few buckets: the fixed stuff you have to pay, a slice for saving and investing, and then guilt-free spending, which he pegs at roughly twenty to thirty-five percent of what you bring home. The whole point of that last bucket is that it's already accounted for. You decided in advance it was okay to spend. So you can.
The figure above is a rough version of that guilt-free bucket. We took your take-home, subtracted your non-negotiables, and set aside a chunk for saving and investing, and what's left is roughly yours to enjoy. It's an estimate built on plain assumptions, not a reading of your accounts, and definitely not a rule you have to hit. If it came out low, that's information, not a verdict on you. The cost of living is high right now, and that's not a character flaw.
The most freeing part of Sethi's approach is that you're allowed to spend a lot on the one or two things you genuinely love, as long as you go easy on the stuff you don't care about. If travel lights you up, travel. If it's good coffee or your friends or a quiet home, put the money there and stop apologizing for it. The trick isn't spending less across the board. It's spending on purpose, so the money that leaves your account actually buys you a life you like.
None of that works if you can't bear to look, though. That's the part the app is for. When a ten-second glance stops setting off the dread, "guilt-free" stops being a math trick and starts being how it actually feels.